We are the parents of two amazing and brilliant square pegs, who are trying to make sense of a round world that was not designed with them in mind.
Firstly, there is a brilliant young Padawan, who can have discussions about advanced mathematical concepts (or list all the jedi's that ever existed in order of strength), but cannot get dressed in the morning.
And then there is the beautiful and creative Princess Malaika Rose who was sent to earth to teach us to let it go. She can take on anything and try anything, if that's what SHE wants to do. At the same time, taking a bath or eating supper is simply too much to handle.
But as The Way I See It: A Personal Look at Autism & Asperger's,
"What would happen if the autism gene was eliminated from the gene pool? You would have a bunch of people standing around in a cave, chatting and socializing and not getting anything done."
Over the past 5 years that we have spent on the diagnosis rollercoaster (clinical depression, anxiety disorder, ADHD, maybe even bipolar), we have realized that there are very little resources available to explain to us what is happening to our children and what we can do to help them.
A large part of our life now is focussed on managing their anxiety levels. We are only at the start of this journey and still have a huge amount to learn. But as part of this process, we have collected articles and books that help us to understand our children. And spent a lot of effort to find tools out there that will make life easier for them.
Seeing so many parents in the same boat as us, we have now started adding the information we have here and also importing some the tools that worked for us. (For example, we still find it unbelievable that so few other parents know about no-tie shoelaces!) These might work for you, or if there is anything else you are looking for, we now have the ability to import from stores not shipping to South Africa a little cheaper.
Heeding Dr Stephen Shore's words:
"If you’ve met one person with autism, you’ve met one person with autism.”